When You Are A Lover At Heart The Single Life Can Make It Seem Like Something Is Missing

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When it comes to living life to the fullest, many of us think of our own lives and unfortunately compare them to see if it measures up to what we imagine.  If you are a lover, you might feel like with the single life, something is just always missing.  Down time feels like alone time, and when I say alone time I don’t mean some quality time to yourself, I mean feeling alone.  Now am I here to say we should all cry and moan, and ignore everything wonderful around us?  No, not at all!  However, as someone who can relate, when you feel like you are ready for something more it is hard some days to push through.  If you are in your twenties like myself, you might be asking, “am I supposed to be single”, in order to live it up and make my own success, or am I just someone caught in the shuffle?  “Am I just lost and stumbling when I should be more aligned with my personal world?”  Questions like that feel very realistic and personal when we are confused with our current situations.

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Being single for long periods of time isn’t a bad.  In fact I think its healthy.  It allows a lot of time to find yourself and to see how you respond to what life throws at you.  I feel like if you can survive alone, even if it is hard, than you are capable of making it work with someone else.  I know it gets confusing, you read every blog and article looking for answers to your current situation, and just when you think you know what you are going to do next, you see something else that sways you in the other direction.  All of a sudden you are back to square one and feeling confused and no further than before.  Look I get it, I’ve been there, I am there!  I do know though that there is nothing wrong with trying to stay true to yourself and not settle which can lead to a narrower and sometimes, lonely path.  In the end though I think it will pay off.

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If you want to date than go for it.  If you aren’t ready than do you and try and be patient. It is hard when you feel like you are ready and when you are picky.  You might be someone that knows how to be alone plenty enough and maybe you are more so ready, versus someone who is just “in need”.  I guess at the end of the day there are those that will “click” together on one level, and thoughs that come together on another level.  I don’t know, I guess there is still plenty to learn and plenty to discover for all of us.  I guess that is the beauty within this life.  At the end of the day, it is still a mystery!

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