#1 Anything new takes time and effort.
When you are in the middle of changing your life you might get the feeling that not much has changed. You may be getting into your own head and saying, “I don’t feel like this is working out.” One of the hardest things to remember is that progress and growth do not always yield the immediate returns that you and society place value upon. Most people thing that if there new venture is creating financial freedom and the “world travel, beach” lifestyle, that there is no point in moving forward. If you think that way you are actually wrong. When you begin pursuing new things you are not only growing but progressing more than you realize. Just because you don’t see a monetary return right away, if that is even your goal, that doesn’t mean that you are not close to getting what you want. It doesn’t mean that you are not succeeding and progressing even more than those around you. Just like when it comes to investing, there are short term returns and longterm returns. Most people don’t retire off of the short term gains. They live off of them, but those aren’t usually the ones buying them their dream boat or sports car, or their vacation home in Naples Florida. That usually comes from their long term Roth IRA, or 401K, or any other long term investment strategy.
#2 Being positive is the difference between being the happiest person who has nothing, or the most miserable person who has everything!
Mindset and perspective are everything! Although it can be different in relation to culture, location etc., it goes a along way to be in the right state of mind. What I mean in relation to culture is that some countries might be grateful just for water, where say here in the U.S. in most parts, we are grateful for say, roads without potholes. Maybe that isn’t the best example, but you get the picture.
How many of us, inducing myself, have been guilting of getting some of the things we have really wanted out of life, just to go on complaining and chasing the next best thing? Weather you are rich, poor, healthy, deadly ill, your mindset and outlook on life and what happens to you can be the difference between being happy, and being miserable. Thats my point.
#3 Stop comparing yourself. Social media doesn’t mean sh*t!
Social media is awesome isn’t it? I mean you can get in touch people all over the world in seconds! Technology has come a long way, and although it has many benefits, it can also cause a lot of harm to us if we use it incorrectly. Most of us do and here is what I mean.
If you are on social media, Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter etc., you know how vein and insecure people can be. You know how wicked and mean people get around election time. You’ve seen the entire country rip itself in half with debates, and “Facebook Wars”, its sad. Many of us either have, or know someone who takes too many selfies, discloses way too much of their personal life or feelings, “hi everyone glad to have a blog”, or is just rude and maybe inappropriate. Much like a lot of things, social media can be used for good or evil. The problem is we need to stop using it to grow our insectaries and diminish our self esteem and confidence. We are all intelligent enough to know that not everything you see on social media is what it seems, and that is perfectly okay. Just don’t let it break you or demotivate you. If it is doing that more often than not, than get rid of it! You don’t need it!
#4 Make a list or plan to try new things, and start “doing” things one by one.
Your life has more potential than you realize. You may even be currently in the wrong place. You might just not be in your element. If so, you probably are struggling to shine and utilize your strengths that you know you have, and that the world desperately needs. You have to evaluate yourself and your life and make changes according to what you think is best, and for what works for you! So many of us take skills and voices to the grave because we stay in the same place for the rest of our lives. Have you ever been in the situation with a friend or acquaintance that said, “I didn’t know you did that?” So have I. Guess what? Most people don’t know your strengths unless you either tell them or start showing them off. You could have a perfect side hustle for extra income right in front of you but your too shy to say, “hey I do this on the side!” Start taking action especially if it is something you already know how to do and are good at. Treat it like a job. Ask yourself how can I get paid for this, or grow this hobby because I have been wanting to. What do you have to lose? A lot of things are very cheap to start turning into a business and having the flexability to work around your busy life schedule.
#5 Your happiness is the whole reason why you even began to think about change
The whole reason you are leaving your job, or traveling more is because you wanted to be happy. You told yourself that you were not feeling well, and that you wanted to be more happy. That was you saying those things in your head and having those feelings. There is nothing wrong with pushing back against the influence of your job or co-workers, or family and friends that don’t know your deepest dreams and wishes. How could they? They are not you, they are themselves. It is up to you to break through all of that and build up the courage to speak up. It is a lot easier when you have more confidence either by developing it as a skill, or growing it through physical action and progress. For example, I’m working on getting a LLC to be not only professional, but to have a business structure for skills I want to monetize. Some things I enjoy might sound like a hobby, but when I tell people I have a business name, and will have a separate bank account for it, people start taking the idea more seriously. They see that I have done some of the work moving forward. I took action.
Whatever you want to change in your life or whatever you want to do differently you must remember to have some courage. It is going to be challenging at times or feel very scary. That is okay. You don’t have to go to the extreme to make changes that can go a long way into making you feel better, and getting you more of what you want out of life. Start by just changing your mindset and doing things you have been talking about or thinking about a lot. I enjoy writing this blog because it just feels good. I took the action of finally creating it and I am so glad that I did. Whatever it is, give something a shot. Who knows, the world might need “you” and “your thing”. So get to it!